- Anxiety and panic
- Relationship issues)
- Values based work
About Shem
Shem Lopez is an integrative psychotherapist with NCPS and 12 years' practice in the United Kingdom. He works with people facing anxiety, trauma, panic attacks, depression, anger and relationship or psychosexual difficulties. He also supports those questioning life purpose and people coping with major life changes.
Shem uses a mix of methods to help clients notice patterns and make choices that fit their values. Sessions focus on understanding feelings and reactions, and on building awareness of how past experiences shape present behaviour. He aims to help people see what gets in the way of closer relationships and greater self-understanding.
Typical work includes talking through difficult memories, learning practical ways to manage panic and anxiety, and looking at how intimacy and communication affect relationships. He describes therapy as a place to test new ways of relating and responding, rather than simply explaining why things happened.
Shem has been in private practice since 2012. Over that time he has supported people with issues such as abandonment, attachment difficulties, guilt and shame, isolation and midlife concerns. He also brings approaches that assist with sexuality and men’s issues when these are part of the presenting concerns.
Sessions aim to connect discussion with practical steps, so people can try different responses between meetings. People who are unsure what comes next often begin by clarifying their values, then use that clarity to guide small changes in work, relationships and daily life.
How Shem uses evidence-based approaches online
Shem draws on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Emotionally-Focused Therapy and the Gottman Method to guide online sessions. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) focuses on clarifying personal values and learning small, practical steps that align with those values. It is often used for anxiety, stress and decisions about direction in life.Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) looks at patterns of emotional connection and how those patterns shape relationships. It helps people recognise how they respond to closeness and conflict so they can try different ways of relating. The Gottman Method concentrates on communication habits and practical skills for partners to manage conflict and rebuild trust.
Finding the right approach is part of the work. The therapist will discuss goals, preferences and what has or hasn’t helped before, and then suggest methods to try together. That collaborative process may change as the work develops.
Please confirm current session formats before booking, as they are not specified here. Online therapy can make it easier to fit sessions into a busy week, allow shorter check-ins, or remove the need to travel. Registered or accredited professionals can guide whether live video, phone or another arrangement best supports the practical needs of the person seeking help.
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Experience
12+ years
Listed in
United Kingdom
Languages
English
Frequently asked questions
What kinds of concerns does he help with?
He works with stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, panic attacks, depression, anger, relationship and intimacy issues, and questions about life purpose among other concerns.
How does he approach someone feeling stuck?
He uses integrative methods to increase self-awareness and identify unhelpful patterns, then links insight to practical steps guided by a person’s values.
What experience does he bring?
He has 12 years of clinical practice, and has worked in private practice since 2012 supporting a range of emotional and relational issues.
What credentials and where is he based?
He is listed with NCPS and practices in the United Kingdom.
Can I work with him if I live outside the UK?
International clients are accepted and sessions are offered in English.
What session formats does he offer?
Please confirm current session options before booking as formats are not specified here.
How much do sessions cost?
Cost varies with location and sessions use a subscription that can be cancelled at any time.
How do I begin if I want to try therapy?
Select the See online therapy options button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule a first session.
Online talk therapy is not emergency care. If you are in danger, use the crisis numbers.