- Relationship work
- Trauma support
- Career direction
About Lilia
Lilia Gonzalez-Joly is a California Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) with 16 years of clinical experience. She works with adults who are facing relationship strain, family conflict, trauma and abuse, low self-esteem, or uncertainty about career and life purpose.
She helps people talk through relationship problems and family tensions in straightforward terms. She also addresses trauma, guilt, shame, and difficulties with self-love. Conversations focus on what is happening now and what practical steps a person can try between sessions.
In sessions she uses a mix of approaches that match each person’s needs. That can include strategies from cognitive behavioral therapy to notice and shift unhelpful thoughts. It can also include attachment-based and emotionally-focused methods to understand patterns in relationships.
Lilia favors a client-centered orientation, which means she listens closely and helps people set their own goals. She works with people to clarify values and priorities, especially when career choices or life purpose feel unclear.
She offers services in English and Spanish and practices in California. To begin, a person usually completes a short matching questionnaire and schedules an initial session to see how the work might proceed.
How her approaches translate to online work
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) helps people notice thoughts and feelings without getting stuck in them. It focuses on identifying values and taking small committed steps that align with what matters to the person. Attachment-Based Therapy looks at how early relationship patterns shape current connections and communication. It helps people spot repeating patterns and try different ways of relating that can feel more helpful.Finding the right therapeutic approach is part of the first sessions. The therapist will work collaboratively to identify which methods fit the person's goals, preferences, and the problems they bring. That may mean blending ACT, attachment work, CBT techniques, or emotionally-focused interventions as the work progresses.
Confirm the exact session formats offered before booking. Online sessions can make it easier to fit therapy into a busy schedule, reduce travel time, and allow for shorter check-ins when needed. They also let a person continue work after a life change without needing to commute. Ask about available formats when you complete the matching questionnaire so you can choose what suits your daily life best.
Areas of expertise
Primary focus
Additional focus areas
Therapeutic approaches
Experience
16+ years
Listed in
California
Languages
English, Spanish
Frequently asked questions
What concerns does she address?
She works with relationship issues, family conflict, trauma and abuse, low self-esteem, and career or life purpose questions.
How does she approach feeling stuck?
She combines client-centered conversation with practical strategies from CBT and attachment-informed work to help clarify values and next steps.
How much experience does she have?
She has 16 years of professional experience working with adults on relationship, family, trauma, and self-esteem concerns.
What are her credentials and where is she based?
She is a California Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (CA LMFT) working in California.
Which languages are supported?
Sessions are offered in English and Spanish.
Can people outside the U.S. work with her?
International clients are not currently accepted.
How are sessions billed?
Costs vary with location and sessions are provided through a subscription that can be canceled at any time.
How do I begin a first session?
Select the See online therapy options button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule a first session.
Online talk therapy is not emergency care. If you are in danger, use the crisis numbers.