- Sexuality and intimacy
- Relationship patterns
- Solution-focused work
About Gordon
Gordon Birnie is an NCPS psychosexual and relationship counsellor based in the United Kingdom with three years of professional experience. He works with people facing stress, anxiety, depression, relationship and intimacy-related issues, and those questioning their sexual identity or orientation. He also supports people dealing with life changes and with concerns about career and life purpose.
Clients come to him for practical help with sexual problems, LGBT and gender identity concerns, and for coping strategies when anxiety or low mood feels overwhelming. He also works with people who want to understand attachment patterns, communication problems, or guilt and shame that affect relationships and self-worth.
His style is down-to-earth and non-judgemental. Sessions focus on listening and responding to what matters most to the person in front of him. He aims to make discussions about sex and intimacy straightforward and ordinary, so sensitive topics are easier to talk about.
Gordon uses methods drawn from client-centred practice, Imago relationship work and solution-focused approaches. That means he can prioritise the client's concerns, explore relationship patterns, and try short-term strategies to see what helps now. He prefers a practical tone and works with the client to set small, achievable steps.
People should note he practises in the UK and conducts sessions in English. If you want to explore life purpose, sexual concerns or relationship patterns, he asks you to start by completing the practice's short matching questionnaire and scheduling an initial session.
How his approaches translate to online work
Client-Centred Therapy focuses on listening and following the person's lead. It helps when someone needs to be heard and to make sense of their feelings about relationships, identity or life changes.Imago Relationship Therapy looks at recurring patterns between partners and the childhood roots of those patterns. It can be useful for people who want to understand how past experiences affect current communication and intimacy.
Solution-Focused Therapy concentrates on practical steps and brief experiments. It suits people wanting immediate, manageable changes and clearer next steps around career, life purpose or coping with anxiety.
Choosing the right approach is part of the work. The therapist will discuss goals and preferences and adapt methods collaboratively, so the plan fits what the client wants to try. That means sessions can shift between listening, relationship-pattern work and short-term problem solving as needed.
Confirm which session formats are offered before booking, as the biography does not specify formats. Online work can make it easier to fit sessions into busy days, allow shorter check-ins when needed, and avoid travel. These practical benefits help people keep therapy consistent while they test different approaches.
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Experience
3+ years
Listed in
United Kingdom
Languages
English
Frequently asked questions
What kinds of concerns does he help with?
He works with stress, anxiety, depression, relationship and intimacy-related issues, and sexual concerns including LGBT and gender identity matters.
How does he approach someone feeling stuck?
He uses a down-to-earth, non-judgemental style and focuses on what the person identifies as most important. Practical, short-term steps are often used to test what helps.
What experience does he bring?
He has three years of professional experience supporting people with sexual problems, relationship issues, anxiety, depression and life changes.
What is his credential and where is he based?
He holds the NCPS credential and practises in the United Kingdom.
Can I work with him if I live outside the UK or in another language?
Sessions are offered in English and he does not accept international clients at this time.
What session formats are available?
Please confirm current session formats before booking, as the biography does not list specific formats.
How are fees and payment handled?
Cost varies with location and sessions are billed via a subscription that can be cancelled at any time.
How do I begin working with him?
Start by selecting the See online therapy options button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and then schedule your first session.
Online talk therapy is not emergency care. If you are in danger, use the crisis numbers.